Very rarely have I come across any teenager who does not have a problem with his/ her parents. For that matter even a husband caught between his wife and mother or a an ambitious daughter wanting to break the shackles of restricting traditions or a son who is not able to find his calling in life yet…they all seem very grieved with the fact that their parents don’t understand them!!
“How can they not understand us, their children?”…they demand to know!
I was blessed with a certain insight a few years back. I’ve no explanation of how it occurred to me but the thought was very simple and true-
“The moment we stop looking at parents as being super human and look upon them as being individual human beings- like your neighbor, your friend, your colleague, your boss or your own self!- the matter will be much simpler to handle”
Just because they have given us birth- which by itself is a very scientific and definable process (SEX!)- does not mean they are overnight blessed with a mind that encapsulates and overviews all worldly matters. It does not enlighten them or attain them a state of supreme understanding.
They do develop a paternal care and concern which motivates them to take care of us and provide for us the amenities that they do but at the bottom of the parental layers they still remain individuals with expectations, ego, envy and various other complexes of the human mind.
If we as grown up teens or beyond, have the right to feel betrayed when we are not justly rewarded for the acts we do to please them then they too have a right to be unreasonable ( i.e. according to children!)
For while we very recently found our mind and started molding it, the parents have a large baggage of so many years when they have consistently tried to do their best for us!!
I’m not expecting children to surrender absolutely to their parents and give in to their every demand and restriction but if it comes to a matter of being short changed…it does help if you think of them as mere individuals…not as your parents!...not as Mr and Mrs XY but just Mr. X and Ms. Y!!
What say?
“How can they not understand us, their children?”…they demand to know!
I was blessed with a certain insight a few years back. I’ve no explanation of how it occurred to me but the thought was very simple and true-
“The moment we stop looking at parents as being super human and look upon them as being individual human beings- like your neighbor, your friend, your colleague, your boss or your own self!- the matter will be much simpler to handle”
Just because they have given us birth- which by itself is a very scientific and definable process (SEX!)- does not mean they are overnight blessed with a mind that encapsulates and overviews all worldly matters. It does not enlighten them or attain them a state of supreme understanding.
They do develop a paternal care and concern which motivates them to take care of us and provide for us the amenities that they do but at the bottom of the parental layers they still remain individuals with expectations, ego, envy and various other complexes of the human mind.
If we as grown up teens or beyond, have the right to feel betrayed when we are not justly rewarded for the acts we do to please them then they too have a right to be unreasonable ( i.e. according to children!)
For while we very recently found our mind and started molding it, the parents have a large baggage of so many years when they have consistently tried to do their best for us!!
I’m not expecting children to surrender absolutely to their parents and give in to their every demand and restriction but if it comes to a matter of being short changed…it does help if you think of them as mere individuals…not as your parents!...not as Mr and Mrs XY but just Mr. X and Ms. Y!!
What say?
2 comments:
Hey lovely arcticle... i wonder how many people have read this article of yours but i do wish everyone who can read on your blog should read this article. thank you for the lovely insight...
your thoughts are of a matre adult. nice one
i meant to say mature in the sentence above
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